I have a concern/fear/worry that most professing Christians don't understand the significance of the gospel for their lives nor do they appreciate all that Jesus has accomplished on their behalf. That concern is mainly driven by the fact that the "they" in the last sentence has been me for most of my Christian life.
Which is not to say that I've got all of this figured out. But I have been given a season of weakness where I have had to come to grips with the fact that I have nothing to offer to God. In truth I never had anything to offer to God and neither do any of us, it's just that I thought I did.
It seems to me now that almost all of us have embraced a mode of Christian living where we come into the faith via the gospel then set it aside as we seek to grow in Christ. It seems to me that our mode of Christian living is usually the pursuit of self-improvement or getting better.
Here's a paraphrase of a couple of conversations I had recently with a dear friend that illustrates this. The name has been changed here, but I'll say up front that "Bill" is a true Christian who loves the gospel but who stuggles with guilt and feelings of condemnation over his failures to be all that God wants them to be. I've known him long enough to know this is a long term problem, and I've also known myself and other Christians long enough to know that this is a common struggle. Let me also say that I have a close enough relationship with "Bill" that I felt comfortable being more direct than usual in these conversations and I'll also mention that "Bill" has given me permission to share all of this.
Bill: Do you have a regular quiet time?
Me: Not really. (I know that is probably shocking, but see here and here for a more biblical perspective on the "law of the quiet time").
Me: Yeah, I guess so. But don't worry, even if you tell God you can handle life on your own, He doesn't believe you. He's still handling your life even if you don't know it or acknowledge it.
Bill: OK, but I need to do a better job of having my quiet times.
Me: OK, so what happens if you don't do a better job of having your quiet times?
Charlie: Well I'll just be a better Christian if I do. I won't be as close to God if I don't. I look at __________ (insert name of local super-saint here) and they are always having a quiet time and are such a good Christian, and ____________(insert name of other local super-saint here) and they are so wise and I want to be more like them.
Me: OK, so is God going to love you less if you don't have a consistent quiet time?
Bill: Well no, but don't you think God wants us to have quiet times?
Me: Well sure, but it sounds to me like you just want to be like ________ and __________ and want to earn a promotion from God.
Bill: Yeah, they are such good Christians. And doesn't God want me to be a better Christian?
Me: How much better do you have to get at having quiet times and how much better of a Christian do you have to be before God will be satisfied with you?
Bill: ???
Me: If you fail to have a quiet time, how does that detract from the sufficiency of Christ's atoning work for you?
Bill: It doesn't, but doesn't God want us to spend time with Him?
Me: Sure, but if you don't, does He love you less?
Bill: Well, He's more pleased.
Me: So let me get this straight, God's ongoing pleasure with you is dependent on you having a quiet time and being a better Christian, not on what Christ did for you on the cross.
Bill: Umm . . .
Me: So how long have you been dissatisfied with your spiritual growth and feeling bad about your lack of quiet times?
Bill: Almost of my Chistian life. I was taught as a very young Christian that a good Chistian will have a daily quiet time and I have never been very good at that. I'll do it for awhile and slack off.
Me: And what changes has this produced? How haw all of this worrying and fretting helped you? How have all of your new plans and initiatives to be better at having quiet times worked out?
Bill: Well, they didn't work out, but at least I felt bad about it, at least I felt bad about not having my quiet times.
(Nervous laughter from both of us . . . )
Me: So you continue on, feeling bad about not having enough quiet times, and trying to do better, but you never get better and you keep feeling bad about it.
Bill: Yes
Me: OK. let me throw something else at you to think about. It sounds like you are making an idol of ________ and ________. You admire them and so you want to become the kind of person you can admire.
Bill: Hmm . . . ok, maybe.
Me: I think it's just a case that you are following the typical kinds of teaching and training we get in the church, I know that's how I was trained and how I lived for most of my Christian life. I wanted to be a "good Christian," like others I admired. But this pretty much makes an idol of yourself and leaves God out.
Bill: OK, I can see that.
Me: Again, I think this is probably just a case of following sincere but misguided training. On the other hand, this may truly be a case of deep sin. And if it is a case of sin it is the sin of making an idol of yourself, you wanting to be a "good Christian," which means you become the kind of person you can look up to rather than looking to Christ. You want to admire yourself rather than trust Christ.
Bill: Hmmm . . .
Me: Yeah, I'm not trying to make you feel bad here, I think we are all like this. But the upshot of all of this is that we admire and value our own spiritual performance more than we value Jesus' work on the cross.
Bill: Ooh . . .
Me: OK, at the risk of rubbing it in let me ask you something else - is there anything in the Bible you really want to read or anything you want to know about God that you can find out by reading the Bible?
Bill: Well, I can't think of anything, I just want to read through the whole thing.
Me: So here's how it is - the Bible is not the kind of book you really want to read, and it really doesn't have anything in it that appeals to you and that you really want to know. You just think you need to read it so that you can get a promotion from God and become the kind of person you can look up to.
Bill: Umm . . . well, if you put it that way.
Me: Again, I'm not trying to make you feel bad, most of us are that way. But I'm just trying to illustrate the way we professing Christians tend to think. Think of it this way - when you wake up in the morning do you wake up as a person who is deficient spiritually, and who is a bad Christian who needs to get better? Or, do you wake up as a sinner for whom Christ died, whose sins are forgiven, who is loved by God with an everlasting love and a love which nothing can separate you from?
Bill: I guess the first.
Me: And here's another way of thinking about this. You would probably feel more at ease in your soul if you could be this mythical "good Christian" that you've got in your imagination than you would in knowing that Christ has forgiven your sins.
Bill: I guess so.
Me: But, suppose you woke up in the morning as a forgiven sinner, who didn't have the pressure of having the pressure of spiritual performance haunting you, and as one who was surrounded by the grace of God.
Bill: OK . . .
Me: And suppose your attention was on God and all He has done for you in Christ rather than on yourself and suppose your eyes were opened to all the blessings God has poured out on you and the goodness that surrounds you.
Bill: Alright . . .
Me: If that was what you woke up to every day, the knowledge that you are a forgiven sinner surrounded by the grace of God, do you think you might then want to read His word and spend time with Him?
Bill: I think so.
I'll stop it here and mention that we've had many other conversations in this regard and in pretty much all of our conversations I focus on Christ and His benefits. In the conversations I'm paraphrasing here I was more blount and direct than ever and I want to assure you I don't go around accusing people of being idolaters and things like that. Trust me when I say that "Bill" is one of the most sincere and faithful Christians I know. These were just situations where I felt we were at enough of a comfort level that I could say these things in a non-threatening way and I can say these kinds of things because I have spent my whole Christian life practicing these things myself. I was hoping to kind of shock "Bill" out of that performance orientation that was causing so much distress.
And having said that, may I encourage you dear reader, to take these things to heart. I know that I have endured far too much self-inflicted misery in my Christian life because I have been on that performance treadmill and I have also spent most of my life looking within for evidences of God's favor, rather than looking to the cross. I dare say that my experience and "Bill's" is common. I almost never meet a satisfied or content Christian.
Most folks I know whould say that, given our inherent sinfulness, we should never be satisfied in ourselves or we won't pursue holiness. But my response to this is that I don't think we know how to be satisfied in Christ. We place a greater value on overcoming sin than in being forgiven of sin. By God's grace may we turn that value system around.
Thanks for sharing, I and many I know have struggled with some of the same performance based ideas about God. I still have my moments. I think I am coming to peace with a lot of that. His word has helped me know Him better and has given me a foundation. Some of the Lord's greatest moments in my life have been at what I would consider my weakest moments (lack of quiet time)
Posted by: Randi Sanders | October 15, 2010 at 01:10 AM
There is no commandment in Scripture to have a quiet time. Still yet, I would just say, "Shall we continue in sin that grace may abound?"
Posted by: Terry Pruitt | October 15, 2010 at 07:12 AM
I've appreciated your post today and yesterday, David. In fact the one yesterday I shared on FaceBook!
An old member of RTDisc
Posted by: Cindy Marsch | October 15, 2010 at 08:00 AM
Good gospel stuff, David! I've quoted you in a post on The Cruciform Life Blog. Great to connect with you.
Posted by: Jimmy Davis | October 15, 2010 at 10:08 AM
Thanks everyone for your encouragement.
Terry - no doubt. Two thoughts on that. First, can we say something is a sin if there is no law or commandment on the matter. Still, you are right, grace would abound much more in "Bill's" life if he would be in the word and prayer more. But the second thought is this - Bill knows this and feels this deeply. In "Bill's" mind he is definitely sinning by not having a quiet time and has been living in sin for some time. Still, that feeling of sinning against God by not having a quiet time (for years now) has never been enough motivation to start having quiet times. So what's he to do?
Posted by: David Wayne | October 15, 2010 at 05:16 PM
I agree with you there is no biblical command to "have a quiet time." That is evangelical cultural demand, and could be tantamount to the party of the circumcision asking the early Gentile Christians to get circumcised. Every age has this tendency to add some outward sign of righteousness, and one of ours is the quiet time. So I reject outward signs of righteousness such as having a quiet time, listening to Christian radio, and going on a missions trip. However, I do all these things as one under grace, not one needing to show others that I'm doing it right. But I could drop all of those things and have not sinned a lick. As a means of "doing it right" they are a different gospel. As outward signs of righteousness, they are actually sin. They are a false gospel.
As we preach grace, which is all we have, some people will hear that they get to sin because it doesn't matter. That is why Paul clarified by saying, "Shall we continue in sin that grace may abound?" I take it as a mandatory clarification because the logical conclusion is to rush to the conclusion is that I can get away with it. In a sense I can, but that is not all the story.
Posted by: Terry Pruitt | October 15, 2010 at 07:16 PM
Wow. Excellent thoughts. I had to quit working as a family doctor 4 years ago because of chronic headaches and frequent migraines. My counselor and I have done lots of work about my "performance" issues. They extend to my spiritual life as well. I've currently been questioning the whole issue of sanctification - it's something that God does for us, but yet we participate by engaging in spiritual disciplines and generally being obedient. But, none of what I DO impresses God. I do it to be closer to God. Theoretically. I still find myself slipping into "performance" mode entirely too often. Thank you for the encouragement tonight.
Posted by: Catherine | October 16, 2010 at 12:54 AM
I must recommend the book Because He Loves Me by Elyse Fitzgerald. It's right up this alley. I read it a year and a half ago, and wondered if I had ever really understood the gospel before.
Posted by: Heidi | October 20, 2010 at 05:18 PM
David - Good stuff - “You want to admire yourself rather than trust Christ.”
I vote... NO balance - ALL grace. :-)
Much agreement when you write...
“I was hoping to kind of shock "Bill" out of that **performance orientation** that was causing so much distress.”
“Performance Orientation” is is a big distraction from “hearing His Voice” and following Jesus.
You also write...
“I don't think we know how to be satisfied in Christ. We place a greater value on overcoming sin
than in being forgiven of sin. By God's grace may we turn that value system around.”
Amen and amen.
When “trying to keep the rules” aren’t we are focused on **self** (Idol worship?)
(What am “ I “ doing? Good or Evil?) and wind up living under the “Law of sin and death?”
1Cor 15:56 ...and the strength of sin **is the law.** :-(
But as a believer I’m NO longer under the law - but under grace.
Rom 6:14
For sin shall not have dominion over you: for ye are not under the law, but under grace.
I NO longer desire to live under the law. Even my own rules, laws, that I make up.
And I don’t have to “Live under the law.” because...
1 - We are delivered from the law. Rom 7:6
2 - We are - Dead to the law. Rom 7:4
3 - We are - Not under the law. Rom 7:2
4 - We are - Free from the law. Rom 8:2
5 - The law worketh wrath. Rom 4:15
6 - We are - Redeemed from the curse of the law. Gal 3:13
7 - We are - No longer under a schoolmaster. ( The law.) Gal. 3:25
8 - The law is NOT made for a rightous man. 1 Tim 1:9
9 - By the deeds of the law there shall no flesh be justified. Rom 3:19
10- The law is NOT of faith. Gal 3:12
A simple rule of thumb for me to know where I’m living - under law - or under grace.
When I Focus on **self** - I’m living under the law.
(What am “ I “ doing? - Good or evil?) Hmmm? That pesky tree again. ;-)
When I Focus on **Jesus** - I’m living under grace.
(What is “ Jesus “ doing?- Forgiving, cleansing, loving, showing mercy.) Tree of “Life?”
His Blood “cleanses me” from “ALL” my sin. Jesus forgives me.
His mercies are “NEW” every morning. And Jesus remembers my sin no more.
That means I don’t have to remember my sin either. It’s gone. ;-)
Thank you Jesus... :-)
And other sheep I have, which are not of this fold:
them also I must bring, and they shall **hear MY voice;**
and there shall be “ONE” fold, and “ONE” shepherd.
John 10:16
One Fold - One Shepherd - One Voice.
{{{{{{ Jesus }}}}}}
Posted by: A. Amos Love | October 22, 2010 at 11:54 AM