This is one of the best quotes I have seen on suffering. It's from the great Dutch theologian Geerhardus Vos. One thing I have learned through my recent ordeal is that there is a temptation to try to avoid the the issue and hope they go away, but you just can't do that - you have to face these things squarely. God has grace for those who face their trials squarely, not those who run from them or try to pretend they aren't there.
And oh btw, I'm ripping this off from Jared Wilson at The Gospel-Driven Church, a blog I highly recommend you put in your rss reader.
“What the Lord expects from us at such seasons is not to abandon ourselves to unreasoning sorrow, but trustingly to look sorrow in the face, to scan its features, to search for the help and hope, which, as surely as God is our Father, must be there. In such trials there can be no comfort for us so long as we stand outside weeping.
If only we will take the courage to fix our gaze deliberately upon the stern countenance of grief, and enter unafraid into the darkest recesses of our trouble, we shall find the terror gone, because the Lord has been there before us, and, coming out again, has left the place transfigured, making of it by the grace of his resurrection a house of life, the very gate of heaven.”